November 14
--Random Notes from Tal Ben-Shahar’s talk, a very
inspiring one
Lesson
1: The permission to be human;
It
is natural, it is normal, we all have up-and-downs;
Be
honest, be open, when it is not fine, feel not fine;
Distinction
between emotion and behaviour;
Accept
the emotion and then decide how to behave according to the emotion;
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Lesson2:
Simplifying;
It
is ok, it is fine;
Accept
your emotion unconditionally;
Do
less, not more;
Quantity
affects quality;
Say
“Yes” by saying “No”;
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Lesson3:
Meaning and Pleasure;
Self-Concordant
Goals:
Assigned
with personal interests and values;
Pleasure
and Meaning;
Benefits
of self-concordant goals;
Success,
hapiness, health
Macro(life) and micro
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Lesson
4: Cultivating Healthy Relationships
Long-term
relationships;
5:1
Positivity/Negativity Ratio;
Being
Known rather than Validated;
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Lesson
5: The Mind-Body Connection;
Excising;
Mindfulness
Mediation;
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Lesson
6: Focusing on the Positive;
Additional
money does not make adifference in the long run;
We
do not learn to fail, we fail to learn;
Maintaining
freshness through mindful focus; Say thank you to the world!
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November 06
记得有一次和Orange师姐聊天说到失眠,然后我说我试着数羊还有想象自己漂在大海上,结果都不管用,师姐说喝点小酒会管用。那天我去超市看见一个老奶奶对着那个摆酒的架子的一种看样子是新牌子的酒左看右看, 然后我就过去搭讪:Is it good?她笑着说:I don't know, I just wanna try it!于是我也拿了一瓶,想着失眠的时候派上用场,说:I wanna try it TOO~ 可是后来证明这个决定是很麻烦的,原来酒瓶里面是木塞,我没有这种开瓶器。想着将来也许还会用得上,我就买了一个。那瓶酒才两块多,而这个开瓶器价格是它的三倍。
前天晚上睡不着,我终于觉得这瓶酒要派上用场了,然后就喝了一些,想着马上睡着,明天晚点起也没关系。昨天早晨我大概不到八点就醒了,而且头脑不是通常那种恩,再睡一会糊里糊涂的,而是异常的清醒。然后我就觉得头特别疼,就想一定是喝多了;可是我的膝关节也疼,难道是我最近作仰卧起坐和下蹲的原因;好像其他关节也有点疼,而且我在发烧。 我终于意识到一个事实:我生病了!在黑暗中我摸了摸五官还都在原处,舒了一口气。我想一定是最近我断断续续的感冒还有我的亚健康终于爆发,所以虽然我一点睡意都没有,还是在床上辗转了几个小时直到室友说要去吃饭。于是跑出去吃饭,可是吃了几口就一点胃口都没了,结果都带回来。然后去办公室给老板回了mail之后就跑回家倒头便睡,迷迷糊糊的觉得自己冷热交加,出了很多汗,然后就是醒醒睡睡,晚上7,8点又回了老板几封mail,然后吃了点水果喝水睡觉出汗,大概11点的时候终于觉得想吃东西了,我意识到自己要好了,本来还想今天无论如何要去看医生了。然后吃了带回来的东西,看了看新闻就睡着了。今天早晨起来,头疼关节疼都没了,也几乎不发烧了,90%好了,我真想说:
健康真好呀!